{
  "schema": "vedokrok.public-item.v1",
  "release_id": "MHC-RPUB-20260920-75ad787a",
  "url": "/knowledge/thank-the-person-for-what-they-did-not-only-for-what-you-received",
  "id": "MHC-D-RESEARCH-1031",
  "version": "0.1.0",
  "title": "Thank the person for what they did, not only for what you received",
  "summary": "Thank you becomes more informative when it names the care behind the result.",
  "kind": "protocol",
  "body": "Describe the person's specific action and why it mattered. Keep the praise truthful and proportionate. Research on gratitude conversations distinguishes recognizing the contributor from talking only about your own benefit.",
  "limits": [
    "Gratitude is not payment for unpaid obligations or a reason to tolerate mistreatment. Do not invent sacrifice or demand an emotional response."
  ],
  "topics": [
    "life-02-relationships"
  ],
  "intents": [],
  "source_ids": [
    "RS-04C32C1DF8A834CF"
  ],
  "evidence": [
    {
      "claim": "Other-praising content in gratitude conversations was associated with more positive recipient perceptions in the studied couples.",
      "source_id": "RS-04C32C1DF8A834CF",
      "role": "supports",
      "note": "The findings do not justify flattery, forced gratitude or a guaranteed relationship effect.",
      "locator": "Abstract"
    }
  ],
  "use_when": [
    "You want to acknowledge a real contribution."
  ],
  "avoid_when": [
    "Gratitude is not payment for unpaid obligations or a reason to tolerate mistreatment. Do not invent sacrifice or demand an emotional response."
  ],
  "example": "Thank you for checking the difficult records instead of only the easy sample. That gave us a clearer picture of the remaining work.",
  "check": "The recipient could tell which contribution you noticed.",
  "steps": [
    "Identify one observed effort, choice or consideration.",
    "Say what that action made possible.",
    "Let the acknowledgment stand without attaching a hidden request."
  ],
  "sources": [
    {
      "id": "RS-04C32C1DF8A834CF",
      "title": "Putting the 'You' in 'Thank You': Examining Other-Praising Behavior as the Active Relational Ingredient in Expressed Gratitude",
      "url": "https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1948550616651681"
    }
  ],
  "relations": [
    {
      "from": "MHC-D-RESEARCH-1031",
      "to": "MHC-D-RESEARCH-1034",
      "type": "useful_with",
      "url": "/knowledge/ask-for-bounded-help-while-making-no-a-real-option"
    }
  ],
  "collections": [
    {
      "id": "RC-41F92313DB3A16E8",
      "title": "Connect, cooperate and disagree without guessing minds",
      "url": "/collections/connect-cooperate-and-disagree-without-guessing-minds"
    }
  ]
}