{
  "schema": "vedokrok.public-item.v1",
  "release_id": "MHC-RPUB-20260920-75ad787a",
  "url": "/knowledge/ask-for-bounded-help-while-making-no-a-real-option",
  "id": "MHC-D-RESEARCH-1034",
  "version": "0.1.0",
  "title": "Ask for bounded help while making no a real option",
  "summary": "A clear request is easier to consider than a vague hope that someone notices.",
  "kind": "protocol",
  "body": "Name the help, the likely effort and the timing. Research suggests people often underestimate willingness to help, but also underestimate how uncomfortable refusal can feel. Make the request useful without exploiting that discomfort.",
  "limits": [
    "Do not repeatedly target the same accommodating person or describe a large task as tiny. Power differences may make refusal difficult even when you say it is allowed."
  ],
  "topics": [
    "life-02-relationships"
  ],
  "intents": [],
  "source_ids": [
    "RS-0A0EABE3D88CD036"
  ],
  "evidence": [
    {
      "claim": "People underestimated others' compliance with help requests and the social discomfort associated with declining them.",
      "source_id": "RS-0A0EABE3D88CD036",
      "role": "supports",
      "note": "Higher compliance is not always freer consent; the practical request should make refusal genuinely acceptable.",
      "locator": "Abstract"
    }
  ],
  "use_when": [
    "A manageable task is blocked because you have not asked anyone for assistance."
  ],
  "avoid_when": [
    "Do not repeatedly target the same accommodating person or describe a large task as tiny. Power differences may make refusal difficult even when you say it is allowed."
  ],
  "example": "Could you spend ten minutes checking whether this explanation is understandable? It is fine to decline; I have another review route.",
  "check": "The person understands the request and can refuse without an argument or penalty.",
  "steps": [
    "Ask one person for one bounded form of help.",
    "State the timing and give an uncomplicated way to decline.",
    "Accept the answer and acknowledge any agreed limit."
  ],
  "sources": [
    {
      "id": "RS-0A0EABE3D88CD036",
      "title": "If you need help, just ask: Underestimating compliance with direct requests for help",
      "url": "https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18605856/"
    }
  ],
  "relations": [
    {
      "from": "MHC-D-RESEARCH-1034",
      "to": "MHC-D-RESEARCH-1039",
      "type": "useful_with",
      "url": "/knowledge/share-the-remembering-and-monitoring-not-only-the-visible-chore"
    }
  ],
  "collections": [
    {
      "id": "RC-41F92313DB3A16E8",
      "title": "Connect, cooperate and disagree without guessing minds",
      "url": "/collections/connect-cooperate-and-disagree-without-guessing-minds"
    }
  ]
}