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Connect, cooperate and disagree without guessing minds
Use specific acknowledgment, information-seeking and explicit responsibility to make ordinary relationships easier to navigate.
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10 protocols
10 elements
Stay with someone's good news before changing the subject
Good news is an invitation to join the moment, not immediately improve it.
Read the idea ProtocolThank the person for what they did, not only for what you received
Thank you becomes more informative when it names the care behind the result.
Read the idea ProtocolAsk an open question before assuming the other side's constraint
Learn something before polishing the next argument.
Read the idea ProtocolGet their perspective before trusting your imagined version
Your convincing inner monologue still has only one author.
Read the idea ProtocolAsk for bounded help while making no a real option
A clear request is easier to consider than a vague hope that someone notices.
Read the idea ProtocolAsk for one piece of advice for the next attempt
What should change next time? gives the reviewer a different job.
Read the idea ProtocolMake disagreement sound open to correction without hiding your point
Being clear does not require sounding impossible to update.
Read the idea ProtocolChoose voice contact when connection is the task and both people welcome it
A useful call does not need to become a scheduled performance.
Read the idea ProtocolTry a small new activity together rather than only discussing the routine
Novel does not have to mean expensive, risky or impressive.
Read the idea ProtocolShare the remembering and monitoring, not only the visible chore
The chore begins before someone picks up the shopping bag.
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